What to do with your loved one's ashes.
6th February 2017
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If you've decided, or it was your loved one's wishes, to be cremated then there can be a conundrum about what to do with the ashes.

In some cases the wishes of the deceased will already have been discussed, which clearly makes things easier.

But this isn't always the case.

It may be that burying the ashes, which is known as commiting the ashes, or having them placed in a crematorium is the natural step for you and your loved one. Then there really isn't much of a decision to make.

If you really aren't sure then what's helpful about getting your loved ones ashes is that there really is no rush to make that decision. Apparently actress Patsy Kensit slept with her mother's ashes beside her for years!

Whatever you decide, Valentine and Turner Funeral Directors in Bromley recommend that you take the time to decide what's right for you. 

In the UK we're quite lucky in terms of the law and scattering ashes, in that there are very few restrictions. And there are a few very important factors to consider:

  • you could scatter the ashes at your loved ones' favourite place. Just remember that if it's important to you that you can still "visit" them to have a connection, then you'll need to make sure it's somewhere that is accessible for you to visit.
  • if you are going to scatter the ashes bear in mind that a favourite beauty spot may mean a number of onlookers... perhaps you need to think carefully about timing?
  • consider the environment - if you go to the top of a mountain for example the phosphate in the ashes could have an impact of the ecology of the area. 
  • if you're planning on doing it at sea, it really is worth investing in an urn that's specifically designed for this purpose. This is to help prevent finer ash particles getting caught in the breeze and blowing back, which is obviously distressing. 
  • there are a number of ways in which you can create a memorial from the ashes. Putting them into glass or creating jewellery have become more popular over recent years
Speak to a member of the team at Valentine and Turner, they'd be more than happy to help.
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