People usually fear the unknown or fear the possibility of failing and succeeding.
Yes, I said, “succeeding”. When you become too powerful, too much in control and have too much success, you are fearful of either improving upon those levels of success or staying on top of your game so that no one else can take that level of success away from you. If you can maintain these high levels of success, you may be putting a high level of pressure on yourself, so that others continue to perceive you as being super confident and super successful.
The fear of failing is usually worse than the fear of success because at least with success, there may be a call for action. Whilst with fear, people are usually reluctant to act because they may think that they will look foolish or that they tried it before and they failed, so why try again? Whatever label you want to put on it: “Procrastination”, “Apathy” or a lack of “Confidence”, it all boils down three things:
the wrong mind set;
the lack of action / organisation / goals
and the priority in which you do it ( not being overwhelmed by the workload)
Even if you were told those immortal words: “You are now on your way to having everything you want in the world!”, your reaction to that statement will differ to the way you are made up and connected, your own beliefs & attitude to it, your conditions of habit, your faith and even your fears. You may be saying the words, “Not me”, “No way” or even asking the question “HOW?”.
Are you guilty of having self-limiting beliefs in your abilities as a person to achieve those things you want to achieve or are you asking only “How”?
“How did I get in to this mess?” or “How do I get out of this mess?”, because each set of questions will give you a different way of looking at things and also a different set of answers. One is based on a negative outlook and a negative mode of thinking about the past and the other based purely on a finding positive solutions for the future. You decide which mode works for you better, so that the results are positive for you.
Most books, authors, coaches, so-called “guru’s”, whatever you want to call them, will tell you what you should be doing and what you shouldn’t be doing. However, not many go beyond and tell you how you can, when you can and what you can. The last two is only dependent on timing. The “how to’s” are dependent on your attitude, learning, connections and sometimes experience. You are probably wondering why the “what you can” aspect is dependent on timing? The answer is that you can achieve anything you wish to, as long as you put your mind to it and if it is the right time to act. Every situation deserves the right time for it to be successful. In the Hindu, philosophy, this is called “samay” and “muhurat”. “Samay” means ‘time’ and “muhurat” means ‘auspicious occasion’. Every auspicious occasion requires the right time for it to be beneficial.
In order for you to have the right mind set, Henry Ford had a great saying that sums it beautifully. He said: “if you believe that you can and if you believe that you can’t, then you are absolutely right”.
A lot of authors, such as Earl Nightingale and others, have also taken the teachings of Buddha who once that “the mind is everything. You become what you think and what you think is what you become. Your work is to discover your world and with all of your heart, give yourself to it”.
Most often than not, people do not know what they want, do not know what they have become or who or what they want to be. They do not realise what they are thinking and also do not discover their own world. People tend to suppress their emotions, their energies and their passions and then wonder why they are not happy in what they are doing, what they have got, who they are, who they are with and where they are going.
That usually isn’t the problem, although these are the tangible and intangible evidence and results of the problem. The problem in most people’s mind is “How do I get out of this problem?”.
Are you the kind of person who looks for solutions or are you the kind of person who looks for problems?
For some, when there are no problems to solve, then that becomes the problem! I.e. the problem is that there are no problems!!
I hope that in this article, you discover the solutions to your problems and that you can help others out of their problems if this book has helped you.
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