How Important are Manners to you?
15th December 2011
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Are communication skills and manners important in today's world?

I'd love to know your thoughts on manners as you are out and about in Worcester . . . 

I read this recently:  'Think before you hit send:  Whether you replied to all when you should have forwarded, or you sent an email with a silly typo, most people wished for an Undo Send button on at least one occasion. ... What about when you say or do something in person that you immediately regret?  Instead of regretting, take five seconds before you speak or act, especially in high-stress or emotional situations.  Brain research has shown that by pausing, regulating your breathing, and taking just a few seconds, you are more likely to act rationally instead of foolishly."

Great words from William Montgomery at ASKTEN (you'll find him on Twitter and Facebook).

This seems highly relevant just now with people rushing around the shops through the Christmas rush.  We might make time for our family but how well are we communicating generally?  I was in Worcester yesterday and found some very well-mannered people in the shops around Deansway. 

I'm always particularly proud of my niece Jo.  Her manners are impeccable - whenever she is in a shop and about to pay for something, she makes a point of making eye contact and saying thank you.  If she has been wandering around with her iPod or wearing sunglasses she ALWAYS disconnects from those potential barriers to connect properly with people.  Admirable.  (She does go a bit far when she apologises to furniture when she bumps into it!)  :-)

A friend of mine was racked with guilt at sending a private message via Facebook that the recipient immediately shared with others, without her permission.  My friend is a lovely person, incredibly kind and caring and was upset at how quickly an off the cuff comment to someone she trusted was broadcast on.

Another friend of mine was concerned I may have judged him badly because of a text he sent me several months ago when he was having a bad day.

What about the old phrase 'judge not unless you're prepared to be judged'?  How quickly people can jump on a bandwagon without thinking through the repercussions of their communications.

Putting things 'out there' - via social media or face to face - how much do we pause to think about the impact our words will have?

I was delighted when told one of my strengths was that I 'always say thank you'.  As a people person I think it's critically important to let people know when you appreciate them.

A little appreciation and thoughtfulness can go a long way.  It's often true that 'it's the thought that counts' - so I hope we see lots of lovely festive cheer in our interactions with others, personally and professionally.

I had a fantastic day last Friday with a group of people who joined me on my "Social Media - Up & Running!" event .  They were very focussed on how they came across via their social media and were giving some thought to their 'social media voice' and communications.  (My next beginners day is not until February 17th - we'll put the event up on our Events page.).

It's too easy to dive into the online conversation without thinking first.

What's your online voice and what's your offline/face to face voice/personality like?  How thoughtful are you?


I'm working on mine - I'm a constant work in progress.

It would be great to hear your thoughts . . . 

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